“THANK YOU for being there.” “Thank you for your support.” But what do you say then when thank you is not enough?
IT ALWAYS FEELS GOOD to do something to help another person in times of stress or need. I am not as comfortable, however, being the recipient of caregiving.
Agatha Christie said that “you cannot give to people what they are incapable of receiving”,
(Funerals are Fatal, 1951).
A RECENT EVENT requiring major surgery brought unexpected assistance and loving support to our door…and this big sister learned an important late life lesson to accept my younger siblings generous offerings of presence at a special time of need.
WE DID NOT IMAGINE anyone needed to stay with us during my anticipated hospitalization. However…, my sister and two brothers and spouses arranged among themselves (a surprise!) to plan a week in our home (at different times) just to be available to do what was needed.
MY HUSBAND AND I thrived on such loving care. I let go of organizing in my mind what needed to be done (meals and this and that), and accepting the proffered gift that all was taken care of, I focused on my single task to get well.
THEY WERE THERE FOR BOTH OF US when I was in the hospital, and when I returned home. I know the surgeon’s skill and medical care made my recovery possible, but I am confident that my recovery was hastened by the emotional proximity of loving family, great meals, and laughter at stories and happenings that can only be fully appreciated by family who have been together for many years.
THEY HAVE NOW RETURNED to their own busy lives in Georgia and Florida, and we are all back into our normal lives.
“It may be more blessed to give than to receive, but there is more grace in receiving than giving. When you receive, whom do you love and praise? The giver.” Jessmyn West, The Woman Said Yes, (1976).
Thank you Ed, Sue, Nancy, Milt and Ann!
EACH OF YOU BRINGS SPECIAL TALENTS to our family , and as a family, we re richer for it (including my sisters by marriage). You are loving and caring individuals who are living productive lives and making a difference in your worlds. I remember well your births and witnessed your growing up years, and I still occasionally see your young faces in your adult expressions..
I couldn’t be prouder to be your sister!
Sue Marquis Bishop